AIDS WALK LA 2012

from last year, with my hat from the year before. i'm a repeat offender. ; )

it's that time of year again!

this year the AIDS WALK is happening on my BIRTHDAY- October 14th, and the only thing i want for my birthday is for you to support an amazing cause. not only am i doing the walk, but so are my WICKED sisters Stormy Daniels, Kaylani Lei, and Alektra Blue. you can make a TEAM WICKED donation, donate to me, someone else on our team, or EVERYONE else on our  team...just as long as you do it.

right now TEAM WICKED is in the TOP SPOT out of all of the teams, and out of all the personal donation pages, mine is third. that's huge news, and we still have two months. let's make this year our biggest yet.


for TEAM WICKED, click HERE.

for my personal donation page, click HERE.

it's my birthday, it's a great cause, and it's a tax write off.

thank you in advance.

xo,
j

where to begin...

yes. that's the only bag i take.

It's been so long. I've been back a little over two weeks now, but between jet lag and everything I have to catch up with, procrastinating this blog has been easy. In fact, the only reason I'm finally writing it is because I'm on jury duty, and right now I'm sitting on a hard, cold bench outside the courtroom.

I decided to blog about my trip as I have some of my other adventures...in parts. So much happened during the 3+ weeks I was gone, it's tough for ME to keep the details sorted out. Sometimes I have to check the camera roll on my iPhone to figure out when I left one place for the next. 

I seldom discuss my primary purpose for these trips- I think it goes without saying now that I have the worst case of wanderlust you will ever see, but I also have another passion- helping people. Many of the trips I take are solely for charity work. Work that I can't really go into detail about because of my occupation...sad but true. I knew the stigma and how it would affect me when I decided to pursue my career in adult. We can debate all day long about why it's unfair, and why the money I donate is just as green, or the fact that I work as hard as the next volunteer (if not harder) but those arguments have long since been made...and the bottom line is, at the end of the day, I AM a porn star. A catch 22 in this situation because there are few jobs that would make the money to enable me to travel the world and donate to charities. But I accept the double edge sword, and from time to time I lean against it's sharp edge to remind me I'm alive. i know...how melodramatic of me. ; )

Back to Sri Lanka.

WHERE am I?!?

We were part of a really big build- our team was responsible for doing things like digging and backfilling foundations, doing brickwork, shoveling, hauling bricks, lots of really intense physical work. (Did i mention BRICKS?) With NO wheelbarrows & no power tools. It was hot. Like over 100 degrees, and the "monsoon season" we had been warned about was actually a drought. It was fantastic, though. We had one of the best teams ever. It's just so amazing that a group of strangers from all over the world of all ages and walks of life can come together and end up having so much in common. We all bonded over rice and curry, coconut milk straight from the source, and from sharing bug spray and hand sanitizer. AND ibuprofen.

there is no "I" in team...but there is a lot of sweat, dirt, bug spray, and occasionally blood.

We worked in a community that will have 25 completed homes with latrines and a community center. The families work along side us. We eat their food. Try to speak their languages. And we fall in love with them, with their children, as they shovel and haul bricks along with us. In bare feet.

friends.

Have a glimpse at parts of the build. For privacy reasons, I edit other volunteers out of the pictures, so I'm a bit limited. But you get the idea.

These are the specs for the houses, posted on the backs of each latrine. notice the square footage of the house and imagine there's a whole family living there...and the bathroom is outside. 

hauling all of these...

gave me these!

from this...

to this, a completed house.

In my next blog, you'll read about our two days of R & R- never in my life had I seen or done so much in 2 days! <3  

peace.
xoxo,
j

Still here...

Just checking in!
We had two days of R & R, without the rest and relaxation... We drove ALL over & saw some incredible stuff- the elephant orphanage, a tea plantation, the temple of the sacred tooth, a cultural dance, the golden temple, 5 caves, climbed lion rock, & more, all while logging some serious hours on a bus. A very bumpy bus, while dodging some of the craziest traffic I've seen.

Today we're back to work on the build. HARD. My back, shoulders, arms & neck are aching, but it's a good feeling. I can't believe I've been gone since the fifth, time has just flown by. I am craving a Starbucks, or at the very least, a drink with ice cubes. Or a snow cone... Or a Popsicle...or a slushie... Omg, my mouth is watering just typing those words.

In a week, I'll be in another country & the adventure continues!

miss you.
xo,
j

Miss you!

Hi guys-
I should have blogged before now, but my wifi connection is pretty infrequent. I'm about a week into my trip & I've hauled thousands of bricks, shoveled sand for hours on end & met some really great people.

I miss air conditioning, indoor eating, and starbucks, but I'm having the time of my life.

<3

The Octo-Blog

well, obviously this blog was a long time coming. i'd love to take this chance to simply describe my involvement in a situation that many people love to speculate about, but few really have any legitimate knowledge about at all. i debated posting this blog, but decided that if nothing else, it makes for a damn interesting read.

OCTOMOM.

see, the name alone elicits a response from just about everyone,  mostly negative. i get it. i too had my own opinions about the woman from the tabloids with 14 children. before i tell you what changed my mind, i'll tell you how it happened that i was her on-set "coach" during the filming of her movie.

after receiving so many offers from various adult companies, Nadya Sulemon saw an opportunity to indeed make a racy movie...but she wanted to be in complete control- to do it on her own terms. She didn't want to have sex with anyone else other than herself, but she wanted to explore her sexuality and push her boundaries a little bit. She and her management company approached my better/other half (the jury is still out on that one) Brad Armstrong, and asked him to style her for the shoot. being that his specialty is making women beautiful- he's been doing it for more that 20 years- he agreed, and not long after, he was asked to direct the project as well.

*now, i'm leaving out a LOT of details here. maybe i'll discuss them at a later date, or maybe i won't. no promises.

i met Nadya a few times at my house, as she came for makeup tests and wardrobe fittings. the first time we spoke, she became very real to me. not the person i saw in the tabloids. not the person i saw get really nervous and give some really "iffy" interviews that were edited to serve whatever purpose the interviewers or the networks had...but just a person. in an instant, i realized that my mistake was judging her. the EXACT same way that people judge me and most everyone in the adult industry. it made me rethink many things.

the morning of the shoot, i was speaking at UCLA. when i got home, the shoot was just beginning, and she was really nervous. i am, by nature, someone who feels most useful when i am helping someone. the people that know me really understand this. i could NOT watch her and not do something to help her. my first experience naked on camera was wonderful, as were most of my experiences in this business. i thought if she was going to take the plunge, it should be done the best way possible. so i helped her. coached her. explained things to her. reassured her. and let all of my judgement go. she had her first orgasm that day, and i'd be lying if i said i wasn't proud.

we didn't know then that Wicked would end up distributing the movie. the controversial situation doesn't exactly "mesh" with the reputation that we've worked so long to establish. however, when the deal was made, i agreed to keep helping her in whatever way i could. i owe this amazing career that i have to Wicked, and though i didn't understand the specifics of the deal, if they are behind the project, then so am i. i then went to NYC with Nadya, where we did Howard Stern, she did The View, and then we did Dr. Drew together. overall, i was impressed with the genuine way that people dealt with her. even if they were confrontational on camera, off camera they were concerned, thoughtful, compassionate. ahhh, ratings.

as a "thank you" to me for doing all of this for her and the project, last week Nadya agreed to be a guest on my Sirius/XM radio show. i made her feel comfortable, as opposed to caught in a trap. she gave one of the best, most candid interviews ever. at the end of the show as we were doing her "plugs", we were almost off air when she casually mentioned that the movie "Octomom Home Alone" was the MOST important thing for her to promote out of anything...because 100% of her cut from sales go directly into a trust fund for her children.

regardless of her past decisions or any assumptions i may have previously made about her, that statement floored me...and i learned something else from her- rarely do we ever know the whole story. when we fill in the blanks ourselves, we're bound to get something wrong.

<3
jd

OCTOMOM Home Alone- the press release

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Love Squirts...

well, if you wanted a "personal" blog from me, i'd say this is pretty personal. ; )

as i'm sure most of you know, I'm getting ready to shoot the next TWO instructionals for my series "jessica drake's Guide to Wicked Sex"- G Spot and Female Ejaculation and Anal Play for Men. as some of you may NOT know, i do 100% of these myself. the writing, the research, the casting, budget, catering, scheduling, paperwork, etc. i'm not looking for any "atta boys" for this, i just want to explain how hands-on i am with this line- pun intended, i suppose.

the ones i've done so far- Fellatio, Basic Positions, Anal Sex, Female Masturbation, and Threesomes- are things i have lots of personal experience in, and lots of knowledge about. however, although i have, on VERY few occasions "squirted", i've never done it to myself...and certainly not for lack of trying.

this seemed slightly hypocritical to me. how can i teach women how to give themselves G Spot orgasms if i can't do it? so the quest began...

obviously i understand the mechanics. i know what goes where. i can FIND my G Spot, i just can't work my own magic on it, but i sure tried. i tried fingers, toys, things that vibrated, things that didn't. i just couldn't. i think the harder i tried, the harder it got to reach my goal. i was getting frustrated, i began to sympathize with blue balls.

until a few days ago... i was driving my car and out of the blue i thought about the last time i squirted- how i wasn't TRYING to, i had no idea i was going to, it just happened. i was SO turned on by what was going on, my body just took over my brain and i had one of my strongest G Spot orgasms ever- and a blended orgasm. or 4. i came so hard that i was sore from it. the good kind of sore that reminds you what you've been up to.

i got home and still thinking about that, i got out a few toys that are always at arm's reach in my nightstand and came in about 45 seconds. then i did it again, about 2 minutes later. after that, i grabbed a G Spot toy that i had recently picked up at a convention. (somewhere in here i had the presence of mind to grab some towels) and i tried it out. i had just gotten off so hard and so fast right before that, i wasn't really thinking about getting off...

AND THEN I DID.

i'm more of a "gusher" than a projectile squirter, but let's just say it's a great thing those towels were there, or i would have been sleeping in the wet spot that night. it was awesome. it's not something i'd do all the time, but it was one of those outstanding Os. i felt so accomplished- which is how i hope lots and lots of women will feel after experiencing their first G Spot orgasm watching this next instructional.

just keep lots of towels nearby.
and perhaps a squeegee.


xoxo,
j