To 28E, c/o XXX CHURCH
After an amazing trip to South Africa that led straight to Exxxotica NJ, I was exhausted. I decided to change my flight and leave directly after my shift today, just to have a little breathing room before Tuesday. Although I do believe that everything happens for a reason, little did I know what United 1224 flight had in store for me.
I always book window seats, because I love to curl up and read, and as I settled in, a girl in her twenties sat down next to me. Soon after, a guy sat down in the aisle seat. They began a bit of that polite airplane banter that only existed to me as background noise, until he asked what she did for a living.
"I do ministry work."
My ears perked up, because sometimes I encounter ministry volunteers when I travel and we often trade stories about non-profits & NGOs in other countries that need help. But THEN, I couldn't believe what came next.
"I minister to people in, uh... porn, so I've been dealing with SKETCHY PORN STARS at some convention for the last few days, so..." *she shudders, disgusted* (The guy, who may have even been an attendee of Exxxotica, looks intrigued.)
I felt a fiery hot sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach. This was supposed to be 5 1/2 hours of peaceful reading in the sky, relaxing on my way home to sleep in my own bed after a busy (but awesome) 2+ weeks. She is seated SIX INCHES away from me. I am FURIOUS, and I know I am about to explode if I stay quiet.
"I AM one of those sketchy porn stars", I exclaim rather loudly. She turns, surprised. Many other people in surrounding rows turn around too, curious to know what a 'sketchy porn star' looks like. "and that's not very Christian of you."
She turns and looks me in the face, wide eyed. "What's your name?" (as if my name mattered to her then. It may matter NOW, as I tweet about our exchange to almost a quarter of a million people, blog about it, and discuss it on my RADIO SHOW next week.)
I did tell her and she responded with something like I wasn't wearing makeup so she didn't know it was me or some nonsense. I just stared at her as she tried in vain to dig herself out of her hole. I turned away and stared out the window as we taxied down the runway, considering my options. In the meantime, she began nervously chatting to the guy about how she's been working so hard at the show and seeing all the women being so mistreated by all the men and it upsets her sooooo much. Poor souls.
Minutes later, to me: "I'm sorry. I don't know why I said that. I guess I was trying to be cool."
I look at her again. "XXX Church, right?" She nods. "I recognize you. You came by our booth." Now she knows I know the group she works with. I began to loudly explain how she was passing judgement and had no business doing so. As I do this, I understand that my spoken words will never be enough to express to her how upset I am. So I decided to write her a letter instead.
Dear 28E,
Since we're about to spend some time together, allow me to introduce myself. I'm jessica drake. I've been in the adult business now for over 10 years as a performer, writer, director, and Sex Educator. I am not a victim. I am not mistreated. I am not an addict. I was not sexually abused. Men do not mistreat me. I am not exploited.
You told me you don't know why you said what you said...but I do.
You said it because you're a hypocrite. You may have said it because you're brainwashed. I'm sure it wasn't the first time you've spoken that way about us. You said it to a perfect stranger on an airplane within 3 minutes of meeting him, and I can only imagine the things that you say to others within your organization. Your hypocrisy is, in part, my issue with organized religion. I have more spirituality and compassion in the fingers that I'm using to type this out on my iPad than you have in your whole body. I hope this lesson might be the catalyst that helps you change that.
In just a few sentences, you have shamed us, judged us, and attempted to influence a stranger with your skewed reality. In the name of JESUS.
You are representing XXXChurch. There are only 2 viable explanations:
A. You are parroting their beliefs and feelings about porn stars, in which case your promotional stickers you pass out at our sex conventions should read "Jesus loves porn stars...but WE think they're icky"
B. You are sharing your own very personal feelings about porn performers, and should NOT be publicly representing XXX Church.
Throughout Exxxotica, I was not mistreated once, but sitting next to you, I feel utterly violated. I am more offended sitting next to a hypocrite than you ever would have been seated next to a PORN STAR, and believe me, right about now I'd rather be out on the wing than in this seat beside you. At the very least, I am hopeful this will be a learning experience for you...and if not you, then perhaps for the public, the people at XXX Church and the shows that allow you access to us, like Exxxotica.
Sincerely,
The Sketchy Porn Star
28F
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Monday, October 7, 2013
Monday, August 26, 2013
it starts with me.
for WEEKS i have agonized writing this blog.
when the Hep C situation recently reared it's ugly head, i started to write. i'd pour my thoughts and feelings out, then go back and edit. delete and rewrite. rewrite yet again. i tried to get more facts, and then i kept writing. while it was still just a saved draft, before i had even worked up the discipline to finish it and hit "publish post", i learned about the current HIV situation, and in an instant, i was hit with the same exact feeling i had back in 2004 when i found myself just FOUR days away from being on a first-generation quarantine list. i don't think you ever forget that tingling shock, that sinking in the pit of your stomach when you think that life as you know it has ended.
right now we are supposedly in the middle of a moratorium. safeguards are in place to notify and (hopefully) support the person/people who is/are affected by this horrible tragedy, but let me remind you...this moratorium does nothing unless we are taking into account the HUMAN factor in all of this and realize that NO ONE knows what ANYONE really does in their off-camera time.
look at us, as an industry.
we are SHAMING a girl whose life is changed forever. it could have been me. you. any of us.
we are unjustly pointing fingers, judging and blaming people.
we are attacking each other online and in public forums right in the sights of mainstream media.
we are going on crazy, hate-driven rants on blogs calling people names and making accusations and threats, totally destroying our credibility, and forwarding the stereotypes about the mental stability (or lack thereof) in this industry.
there have been several mentions of unionizing, and while this may be good in theory, in practical application, the likeliness of it being run fairly is nil.
personally, i think that in order to effect change, it has to begin on an individual level.
*right now, i do not feel comfortable shooting. i will not shoot until i do.
*i will, as a performer, require a test for HIV, Hep B & C, chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, and trichomoniasis that is newer than 14 days from my on screen partners. i will do my due diligence and check it's validity.
*as a director, i will require my talent to have tests newer than 14 days. period.
*if i am told by an agency that this means i will pay a higher rate for a performer, i will not continue to book through that agency.
*as always, i will continue to adhere to a specific list of talent that i am willing to work with. i will continue to add or remove people at MY discretion.
you can do this too. make your own guidelines. we have to lead each other and help each other. not by hate speech and shaming and dueling unions, but by strength...and willpower...and by example. EDUCATE yourself about the risks that you take on and off camera, and make informed decisions with YOUR best interest at heart because chances are, no one else will. we can be mentors and support one another. i'm not perfect, none of us are. i will not judge you. i'm no doctor, either, nor do i claim to be- but if there is ANYTHING i can do to help you- answer a question, talk with you, listen to you, support you in any way, reach out to me. if you do not have my number, DM me. and if you don't need support, then lend some to someone else.
FUCKING STAND UP for yourselves. in closing, i will quote an article i wrote about the SYPHILIS incident last year:
"Performers- RESPECT YOURSELF. you only have one body, one life, one chance at this. you are worth more than whatever you are being paid for the scene."
when the Hep C situation recently reared it's ugly head, i started to write. i'd pour my thoughts and feelings out, then go back and edit. delete and rewrite. rewrite yet again. i tried to get more facts, and then i kept writing. while it was still just a saved draft, before i had even worked up the discipline to finish it and hit "publish post", i learned about the current HIV situation, and in an instant, i was hit with the same exact feeling i had back in 2004 when i found myself just FOUR days away from being on a first-generation quarantine list. i don't think you ever forget that tingling shock, that sinking in the pit of your stomach when you think that life as you know it has ended.
right now we are supposedly in the middle of a moratorium. safeguards are in place to notify and (hopefully) support the person/people who is/are affected by this horrible tragedy, but let me remind you...this moratorium does nothing unless we are taking into account the HUMAN factor in all of this and realize that NO ONE knows what ANYONE really does in their off-camera time.
look at us, as an industry.
we are SHAMING a girl whose life is changed forever. it could have been me. you. any of us.
we are unjustly pointing fingers, judging and blaming people.
we are attacking each other online and in public forums right in the sights of mainstream media.
we are going on crazy, hate-driven rants on blogs calling people names and making accusations and threats, totally destroying our credibility, and forwarding the stereotypes about the mental stability (or lack thereof) in this industry.
there have been several mentions of unionizing, and while this may be good in theory, in practical application, the likeliness of it being run fairly is nil.
personally, i think that in order to effect change, it has to begin on an individual level.
*right now, i do not feel comfortable shooting. i will not shoot until i do.
*i will, as a performer, require a test for HIV, Hep B & C, chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, and trichomoniasis that is newer than 14 days from my on screen partners. i will do my due diligence and check it's validity.
*as a director, i will require my talent to have tests newer than 14 days. period.
*if i am told by an agency that this means i will pay a higher rate for a performer, i will not continue to book through that agency.
*as always, i will continue to adhere to a specific list of talent that i am willing to work with. i will continue to add or remove people at MY discretion.
you can do this too. make your own guidelines. we have to lead each other and help each other. not by hate speech and shaming and dueling unions, but by strength...and willpower...and by example. EDUCATE yourself about the risks that you take on and off camera, and make informed decisions with YOUR best interest at heart because chances are, no one else will. we can be mentors and support one another. i'm not perfect, none of us are. i will not judge you. i'm no doctor, either, nor do i claim to be- but if there is ANYTHING i can do to help you- answer a question, talk with you, listen to you, support you in any way, reach out to me. if you do not have my number, DM me. and if you don't need support, then lend some to someone else.
FUCKING STAND UP for yourselves. in closing, i will quote an article i wrote about the SYPHILIS incident last year:
"Performers- RESPECT YOURSELF. you only have one body, one life, one chance at this. you are worth more than whatever you are being paid for the scene."
Friday, August 2, 2013
X3Sixty Treats!
i know, you're going to get spoiled with all these blog posts. ; )
my friends over at X3Sixty have done quite a few interviews and pieces on me, and i thought you might like to see them.
I hosted their AVN Red Carpet, along with Nicki Hunter & there is SO much to see here:
I also interviewed the legendary glamour photographer Suze Randall awhile back:
An interview for Adult Insider:
My current Fling of the Month segment on Adult Insider:
And a favorite of mine, The Making of Men in Black A Hardcore Parody, for Wicked Pictures:
enjoy!
(and yes, i'm feeling MUCH better. thank you to everyone who has been checking on me. )
xo,
j
Wednesday, April 4, 2012
seminars & signings!
good news for everyone in florida... i have TWO seminar/signing combos coming up soon, plus i seem to enjoy naked ocean swimming at 4am every time i'm there. it's tradition. win/win!
here's info for the first appearance:
April 20th
Premier Adult Factory Outlet
5009 South Orange Blossom Trail
Orlando, Florida
407-857-2050
come out and meet me from 7pm-11pm
from 7pm-8pm i'll be doing a seminar for couples, and then from 8pm-11pm i'll be signing autographs, giving away FREE stuff, selling DVDs and Polaroids and more. check out their WEBSITE to see more.
On April the 21st, I will be doing the same thing in TAMPA, so stay tuned for more details.
xoxo,
j
here's info for the first appearance:
April 20th
Premier Adult Factory Outlet
5009 South Orange Blossom Trail
Orlando, Florida
407-857-2050
come out and meet me from 7pm-11pm
from 7pm-8pm i'll be doing a seminar for couples, and then from 8pm-11pm i'll be signing autographs, giving away FREE stuff, selling DVDs and Polaroids and more. check out their WEBSITE to see more.
On April the 21st, I will be doing the same thing in TAMPA, so stay tuned for more details.
xoxo,
j
Monday, January 16, 2012
THE 2012 AEE EXPO
LOS ANGELES, CA / LAS VEGAS, NV - (JANUARY 16, 2012) - Armed with exciting new products, prestigious award nominations and an attention-grabbing new promotional campaign, the Wicked Girls™ will be blazing brighter than the Las Vegas skyline this week at the 2012AVN Adult Entertainment Expo.
The most popular convention of its kind in North America, this trend-setting expo is being held at the spectacular Hard Rock Hotel and Casino in Las Vegas Nevada. The show begins midweek, with Wednesday, January 18th set aside as an exclusive day for industry and media to preview the AVN AEE Trade Show and the AVN Novelty Expo (ANE). The public will take the floor from the 19th through the 21st for the annual Fan Fest, and the 29th Annual AVN Awards Show and afterparty will bring down the curtain late Saturday evening.
The excitement will begin promptly at 11:30 am Wednesday as 2012 AVN award nominee Stormy Daniels joins Wicked consultant Joy King for the topical panel presentation It’s (Not) a Man’s World. These insightful professionals will discuss their experiences working in adult entertainment, highlighting the challenges, advantages and quirks of pursuing careers in an industry commonly construed as being run by men.
As Wednesday draws to a close, the Wicked Girls™ will host the expo's official kick-off celebration at Planet Hollywood's posh new nightclub Gallery, where adventurous party goers can sample a full-service lipstick bar while losing themselves in the beautiful facility's pulsating rhythms and stylish European ambiance.
Thursday January 19th will see the ladies going into promotional overdrive as they take over the Hard Rock’s lush Platinum Penthouse (room 31832) for an exclusive press junket of pre-booked interviews from 1:00 pm – 6:00 pm. Acclaimed directors Brad Armstrong (The Rocki Whore Picture Show: A Hardcore Parody) and Sam Hain (Horizon) will also be giving interviews during this time.
Several key members of Wicked's corporate team will be taking meetings from January 18th - 21st, including President and Owner Steve Orenstein, Consultant Joy King, VP of International Sales and Licensing Steven Vlottes, National Sales Manager Bonnie Kail, Chief Technology Officer Avi Bitton and Carrie Smith of Product Development. Among the new products company executives will be introducing are advance samples of the exciting Wicked Sensual Care line of intimate products, currently slated for a Spring 2012 Launch.
Once the weekend arrives, the Hard Rock’s famed music venue The Joint will be the place to experience some inimitable Wickedexcitement, as Stormy, jessica, Kaylani and Alektra literally "take over the joint" for the weekend as the Fan Fest Stage's official hosts! They will be autographing new signing pieces for their fans Friday from 11:00 am until 7:00 pm and Saturday from 10:00 am until 4:00 pm. As the main stage's hosts, the ladies will be introducing special musical guests, judge exciting contests and participating in exclusive events throughout the weekend. Brad Armstrong will take part in the informative seminar The Perils and Potentials of Parody Porn Saturday at 1:00 pm to discuss current hits like The Rocki Whore Picture Show: A Hardcore Parody and such upcoming projects as Men In Black: A Hardcore Parody.
For those unable to visit Sin City, the Adult Entertainment Expo has launched the AVN-AEE Virtual Ticket, giving Internet users across the globe interactive, real-time access to the convention and associated live events. The hosts for this exciting VirtualCast will be jessica drake, Mr. Skin founder Jim McBride and popular Midwest radio personality Rover. jessica will also be broadcasting her Playboy Radio series IN BED with jessica drake LIVE from the expo on Thursday and Friday 2-3pm PST.
The 29th Annual AVN Awards Show promises to be an exceedingly Wicked affair as well, with acclaimed films and lines like Horizon, The Rocki Whore Picture Show: A Hardcore Parody, Anarchy, jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex, Heart Strings and Sexy competing for major accolades. In addition to providing comprehensive coverage for her VirtualCast audience, jessica and her Wicked sister Kaylani Leiwill also be taking the stage as official presenters.
Once the last award has been handed out, the ladies will finish the show – and their week in Vegas – by hosting Wicked's official AVNAwards afterparty at Vanity nightclub. With a sprawling dance floor surrounded by cyclone chandeliers, onyx catwalks and world-class entertainment, Vanity will be the place to experience the glamor and passion of AEE 2012 in person.
Stormy Daniels. jessica drake. Kaylani Lei. Alektra Blue. A new year. A new attitude. The same Wicked commitment to excellence.
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